•21st CENTURY LOVE IS A LIE• / •YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE•

Drip.
Drip..
Drip...

 Silent, regurgitated liquid emotion spills over my epidermis as yet another 'possible' relationship takes a suicidal dive-bomb into the sun-baked earth. I toss my now buzzing phone to the side and allow the sadness to engulf me in a silent scream, but only for a moment. Gather myself and my feelings from the couch and seemingly continue on with what seems an endless game of hurt.

 Love Sucks.

 But is it really love that is the question here?
Or our screwed culture's version of love?

 [SO WHAT HAPPENED TO DATING]

 So, here we are back at it again with the blog post and about such an interesting topic, love.

 -But what is love?
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."
1 Corinthians 13:4-5 

So to continue in simpler terms, love is not as our 21st century accepts it to be. Love according to the 21st century and my personal opinion is the constant boasting of their S/O , lusting after other relationships, the constant breaking of trust and don't get me started about record keeping of wrong-doings.

From my experience of this culture's affection and dating habits, it almost seems to compare as a competition against other couples/singles to show how "happy/relationally successful" they are together and it disgusts me.
-->Tries to post how happy they are with their S/O.
--->Gossiping about who 'slept with who' and "who liked their most recent Instagram photo".
---->Tinder, specifically for the oh so fabled one night stand.

Our culture's new idealization of dating and happiness would make our older relatives turn over in their graves.

And I'm not just poking blame at boys for playin' the females, girls are just as guilty for leading people on, keeping secrets, and playing games with a man's heart.

People in this culture seem to deem it "okay" to only look for sex and hurt someone who is innocently exposing one's heart for an honest relationship and it's NOT OKAY. 
You, Me or anyone else have absolutely no right to hurt anyone looking for good intentions.
Because you know what? I have a theory, all these "whores" and "fuckboys" were someone with innocent intentions at one point......but were hurt to the point that they saw the only way at getting back at the world and raising their self-esteem was by hurting another and so the cycle was born.

[TAKE ME BACK TO CLASS]

It often can feel hopeless for someone as myself, practicing abstinence and looking for "the one". but fear not hopeless, there are others.

Others that still believe that "hangouts" are not "dates".
That tell you you're beautiful/handsome without being prompted.
That open car doors.
Find that someone that just takes your breath away every time you see a glimpse of their face.
That rejoices at the good with you and comforts in the bad.
Who is there for you no matter the causation.
THAT PUT DOWN THE DISTRACTIONS FOR YOU.
That communicates their genuine feelings and opinions honestly, Because to the pair of beautiful eyes reading this;
WE
ARE
STILL
HERE.


So a reminder to all of those struggling in what seems an endless pit of loneliness....
FIND GENUINE LOVE
kind, patient, not proud, not boastful or envious, honoring, timeless love.
You are worth that storybook relationship.
Your love is precious and one-of-a kind. Don't waste it on those who aren't seeking that unique companionship your Entire.Very. Being. aches for.
Stand firm and stand strong because you are not forgotten.

And if that still doesn't soothe your thirst/impatience for a relationship, I leave you with one of my all-time favorite verses.

“Perhaps this is the moment for which you have been created.”

Esther 4:14

You, my dear, are a diamond in the rough, do not lose hope.

-HP

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